Researchers surveyed BDSM practitioners and non-participants, and found that those who enjoyed BDSM-related activities had shared certain psychological characteristics, like being "less neurotic, more extraverted, more open to new experiences, more conscientious and less tlk than the control or vanilla group.
In short, BDSM practitioners' sex lives made them a whole lot less stressed. What's so relaxing?
There's evidence that BDSM practices might affect a person's mental state before and after their scenes. Similarly, dominants reported a "topspace," an endorphin-filled exhilaration accompanied by heightened feelings of control and accomplishment.
A study conducted last year by Northern Illinois University recruited 14 "switches," or regular BDSM practitioners who enjoy both submissive and dominant roles. After participating in a BDSM scene, the subjissive were tested for mental acuity and memory function.
The ? Subs experienced a ificant reduction in their cognitive scores, suggesting a mental dimming or "altered state" that accompanies BDSM play, particularly when blood rushes away from certain areas of the brain. Sumissive "Topspace for me is the ultimate stress-buster — I experience it as a strange combination of total tranquility, tp focus, and a brain rush of power because it's that one place in the real world where I am completely in control," Gloria Brame, a sex therapist specializing in BDSM and author of Sex for Grown-Upstold Mic.
That foggy, relaxing feeling is likely due to hormonal changes. Both subs and doms had lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol after scenes than before.
Constant communication is key to any healthy relationship, and these BDSM phrases will help get you started. I'm looking at you, Mr.
But BDSM takes on many forms, and while a dom is typically a person who likes to have the perceived power in a situation, too consent from their partner is still imperative. If you're looking to be the boss of the bedroom, these phrases will allow you to bring out your inner Dom.
I want to hear you beg for it. A sub shouldn't be powerless in BDSM play unless they choose to be.
Just like with doms, the role of sub is more nuanced than you might think. A dom seemingly has all the power, but a submissive partner is actually one setting the tone, as subs ultimately decide how much control they wish to surrender to a dom, as well as when to start and stop.